Who is Miss Pearl / Pearl O’Leslie?

I’m a Canadian female dominant. I write this stuff, participate in a bunch of online communities as well as real life and sometimes I cross post it places like reddit or fetlife. I am not a professional dominant. Generally I write what I know, what I like, or occasionally what I’ve researched.

You can reach me more directly via [email protected], and you can also follow me on bsky.

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FAQ

How long have you been a dom?

For me, the official label didn’t come until my early twenties, when I was looking at identity issues in kink. Basically Bitchy Jones and a question on metafilter about porn for female dominants provided a mutual catalyst to realize this descriptor fit best.

In practice, I was a kinky child, in the way that your games as a kid often reflect how you will develop, and when I started dating in high school, light kink play and exchanging fantasies with my then boyfriend was part of it. In practice I am not some experienced leather family member. I like what I get up to, and I’ve been getting up to it in real life since I was 16, but I don’t take my decade of experience seriously.

Are you looking for subs/slaves (or in other words me?!)

NO.

Do you ever sub?

I tried it more formally when I was younger, in the name of experimentation, but I’m missing that aspect of my personality. It doesn’t make me happy, not the way that owning someone does. I am, in full self description a Dominant Sadomasochist. I like kinky sex games that are ouchy for me. I like looking after people. But the idea of being owned, for me is just not interesting.

I want to support the site/give you things!!!

You could buy one of my stories on Amazon. Right now I am not taking donations for hosting costs.